Let us say that we are leaders with aspirations to lead organisations tasked with supporting families in our Focus Group. When we feel under pressure, or we want to get something done, we might find ourselves thinking quickly, with fast processing becoming dominant in our decision making. Perhaps we find ourselves getting irked by someone who asks an awkward question, or proposes an alternative view, or is oppositional in some other way. Sometimes we listen attentively because, as community leaders, we’re supposed to listen, but our mind is made up anyway.
That, in my view, is when we need to slow down.
But because of our belief in the virtue of fast processing, bolstered by the seductive power of achievement – not to mention the superior attitude that we might have from years of formal education – slowing down is not that easy!
I believe that all leaders have a lot to learn from being in the now. The Power Of Now, (the title of a book by the German spiritual teacher EckhartTolle), promotes process – but not fast process – over product, or, (to put it another way), being in the now over getting things done.
In the corporate world, it’s the other way around. Getting things done, or product, (which is what convinces fast-processors of its virtue) is the priority. This is encapsulated in the saying the end justifies the means. In other words, we process quickly, getting whatever we have to do done – even if that means hurting someone else – to achieve a greater goal.
Since the Pillars are influenced by the corporate world to the extent that they are, product often finds its way into supporting people in distress. It is the norm in schools and hospitals so it is only natural that it filters into community work too. It is manifest in focusing on how many clients are seen, how much it costs, how long something takes to get done, how efficient it is, what are the outcomes, outputs, goals and achievements, i.e. how productive we are.
Reflection on whether or not someone can or can’t keep up (i.e. is left behind) or even a genuine enquiry into how they feel is generally omitted. In fact, reflective practice is often undertaken so that more can be achieved – a kind of reflection on product, rather than reflection on self, or the speed of process and its effects on the work. Or, indeed, embracing two-way knowledge flow; i.e. an enquiry into what we are learning from the other and/or the impact that we are having on other people (and in particular vulnerable people) in our environment.
I associate traits such as humility, empathy, sharing power, listening, democracy, equality, compassion with slow process, or, as I said above, being in the now.
Consider, for a moment, the well-known statement attributed to the activist Marianne Williamson ‘as we let our own light shine we subconsciously give other people permission to do the same’ [1] a bit like the Bible exhorting us not to hide our light under a bushel.
I certainly encourage leaders to ‘let their light shine’, but I add a word of moderation, or caution, because I have sometimes found myself in the presence of brilliant people whose light was shining so brightly that it was dazzling others.
The dazzlers were often people who may have had the benefit of 1): years and years of formal education, or, 2): natural gifts in their chosen area, or both. Others were often so awed in their presence that they afforded them something akin to guru status.
While they might come up with very wise sayings or even great truths, dazzling is, I believe, harmful to the project of empowerment. It often arises from an irresistible temptation on the part of the fast-processer to show off the clever answer that popped into his head (and is usually right) and that is beyond contradiction.
The reason why we need to allow staff to be is mainly – as I said above – because the values of the corporate world (remember corporate closed-ness) are deeply embedded in the Pillars and thereby, by propagation, are so influential in middle management and leadership in the community sector.
Fast processor leaders often find it difficult to allow people to be. I’d find it easier to say ‘be themselves’ and that is important too – but being comes before being myself. It is through being that we get to know ourselves, and we can’t really be ourselves if we don’t know who we are.
Comedies that poke fun at hierarchical organisations sometimes have scenes where a junior speaks to a senior in a permission to speak freely – sir kind of way, prior to giving an opinion that differs from what he knows intuitively that the senior person might want him to have. (This is called parrhesia – and I have no idea where I first heard or read that)!
I believe that true inclusion involves creating an environment where people are invited, and feel able to speak freely without fear of sanction, being put down, being proved wrong, patronised or even punished, or that their opinion(s) will have any negative consequences for them.
There is an old saying (some sources say it’s African) ‘If you want to go fast, travel alone, but if you want to go far, travel together’.
Africa is a big continent and I don’t know what part of it this saying came from, but whoever said it first obviously was aware of the likelihood that those with fast processing speed will generally travel alone and probably struggle a bit with travelling together.
Sometimes it reminds me (or I link it to) the old Irish saying about journeying, ‘Gioraíonn beirt bóthar’, which means, in English ‘two people shorten the road’. The Irish saying does not discourage us from going on long journeys, but suggests that if we’d like our long journeys to appear short; bring a companion.
Both, however,
imply that relationship is important to us on our journey if we want to be
leaders that look to the long term.
[1]. I always thought that Nelson Mandela said that until I looked it up on the ever-reliable Internet. Some websites claim that Marianne Williamson said it first. Perhaps they both said it.